Something so innocent like simply checking e-mails through out the day on your phone can become checking Facebook first thing every morning after waking up. Eventually, just telling your kids "one more minute" scrolling through your phone in the grocery store parking lot while your kids are waiting for you to start driving. Hale felted ashamed doing that and specially with her kids their she felted like it was bad parenting from her part. She realized a turning point when her essay about why she decided to return the tablet from her 5 year old tablet back got published. She got a lot of criticism back saying things about how she is being hypocritical since she uses her iPhone 24/7 her self. Starting getting paranoid to worry about her child going towards the same footsteps as her. She didn't wanted that for her child. So she decided to end to saying "one last minute" to them and decided to make an experiment about the issue. She decided quit her phone for one week and only use the computer for work when the kids are at school or asleep. She started to notice something in her experiment. She didn't told her kids about what she was doing but she notice that they notice she wasn't on her phone anymore. She saw signs of them saying they were pleased about it, with ought really saying anything directly. She also notice that she forgotten how to focus. When she had her phone she was unable to focused at activity for long amount of time.Now she can watch the entire TV show without interruptions. She would of use her phone for an excuse to not look at Thomas ( the blue cartoon train) chug around the Island of sober or not having to braid Elsa's hair for the eighteen time that day. She says they deserve my presence with i'm thrilled with the current activity or not. She started to pay attention more to even the little things. She never noticed before that her son's new found love of turning book pages or her daughter sudden willingness to embrace Anna just like Elsa (Frozen characters). They she found out the once that distraction diaper ( iPhone) other remain. She would still have other distractions that would have her wondering about toward work while conversation about Play-Doh. When the week ended, she began using her iPhone again. She notice a difference though.She didn't want to go back to her obsessive behavior.She wanted to focus on being better, more aware, more present as a mom.She wanted give her children more attention, to concur her distraction. But if she couldn't do so,they would see her at least trying.
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